You Will Fall Off—and Get Back Up Again: Real Talk About Behavior Change with Monica Lloyd
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Change is hard. Not the Instagram-quote kind of hard, but the real kind—the kind that asks you to show up for yourself again and again, even when it’s messy, inconvenient, or painfully slow.
In the latest episode of Women In..., we sat down with behavior change expert Monica Lloyd to unpack what it really takes to make meaningful, lasting shifts in your life. From falling off track to finding your footing again, Monica reminds us that change is never a straight line—and that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be.
The Truth About Change: It's Not Linear
One of the most powerful takeaways from our conversation with Monica is the reality that you will fall off. You’ll forget to journal for a week. You’ll go back to that old habit. You’ll get discouraged. And still—you can get back up.
That’s the difference between fantasy change and real transformation. Real change makes space for failure. It expects it. It doesn’t shame you for slipping; it invites you to return, over and over again, with grace and intention.
Start with Self-Compassion
Before diving into strategies and systems, Monica urges us to lead with a self-compassion mindset.
“If you expect perfection,” she says, “you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. But if you expect to learn as you go, you give yourself the freedom to grow.”
Self-compassion isn’t weakness. It’s the foundation for resilience. When you can acknowledge your missteps without judgment, you build the emotional strength to keep going.
Try this simple mindset shift:
Instead of: “I failed again.”
Try: “I’m learning how to do this. Every step counts.”
Know Yourself: Tools to Support Sustainable Change
Want to create change that actually sticks? Then start by understanding how you're wired.
Monica highlights three powerful tools for self-awareness and behavior alignment:
1. Predictive Index (PI)
A science-backed behavioral assessment that helps uncover your natural drives—how you work, communicate, and make decisions.
🔗 Take the Predictive Index
Example: If you're driven by stability, sudden changes may feel overwhelming. Knowing this allows you to plan with more structure and support.
2. DISC Assessment
DISC helps you understand your behavior style across four traits: Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness.
🔗 Take the DISC Assessment
Example: A high-I (Influence) thrives with social encouragement, while a high-C (Conscientiousness) may prefer detailed plans.
3. Gallup CliftonStrengths (StrengthsFinder)
This assessment identifies your top strengths so you can focus on what you do best, every day.
🔗 Take the CliftonStrengths Assessment
Example: If “Activator” is one of your top strengths, starting fast might feel energizing—so use that to jump-start your momentum.
Keep Moving Toward the Change You Seek
The path to change isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress. Monica’s advice? Take small, consistent steps. Use the tools that match your style. Be kind to yourself when you fall off. And above all—get back up.
Every time you do, you’re reinforcing a powerful truth:
You are capable of change.
Whether you’re building a new habit, leading a team, or rewriting your inner story—this episode is full of insight, tools, and real encouragement for the journey.
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